Protecting Children

So as we all are aware Vermont and Iowa recently passed legislation allowing same sex marriage. I was recently listening to an interview with Maggie Gallagher who, unless I am mistaken the president for The National Organization For Marriage. The one thing that jumped out at me from her interview was the same thing that I have heard time and time again. We are doing this to protect the children. She states that through marriage children can be "know and be known by and love and be loved by their mother and father." While I agree this is one way children can know the love of family what about all those children in the world that don't have that opportunity? The children whose mothers or fathers have lost their lives fighting overseas, or the children whose other lost her life in child birth or any of the other countless reasons that children can be separated from their parents.

If I had the oppertunity to tell Maggie what I think about her protecting of children I would probably say something along the lines of:

Stop using children as your shield of morality. You raise your children to be fearful of the unknown and judgmental. I will raise mine to see the beauty and merit in all living things and even to respect the beliefs of those who oppose them. Gay and lesbian people are no more a threat to your children than you are to mine. I vow as a gay parent to teach my children about love, compassion and charity. If I am not mistaken those or the fundamental beliefs of the Christian church. It is sad that I the destroyer of families and normalcy in America is willing to teach my children these simple virtues but you, the moral back bone of society seems incapable of doing the same.

Please, as an open invitation to those who oppose sam sex marriage, do not use children against us. Say what you truly believe and be honest about it. You dislike what you don't understand. Please stop telling us that you love us and have compassion for us because that is a lie. I know that lie is a harsh word but if you truly loves and had compassion for us you would want us to have the same equality as you. Instead you prefer to judge and oppress.

Live your life in accordance to your moral compass and allow me to do the same. Even if that means the government allows the same benefits to extend to my partner and I. Heaven knows I have not tried to prevent you in your pursuit towards equality and happiness, please do not deny me mine.

Homophobia and violence in advertising

OK, First of all when I first heard about this commercial I was offended. Then I watched the commercial and laughed. So now I am kind of at odds with myself. On the one hand it is a pretty damn funny commercial and I kinda feel the same way about speed walkers... Just effing run already GEEZE. But I don't feel the need to violently assault them telling them to "Get Some Nuts". Also the line in which the oh so FABULOUSLY manly Mr. T (I mean the man has more bling than a drag queen) tells the speed walker that he is a disgrace to the man race is a bit over the top for me. I mean ok so the guy is a little femmy. SO WHAT?!?!? You aren't exactly the epitome of MANLY either T. With all your jewelry and fabulosity. Not to mention the fact that you made a name for yourself riding around having adventures with a bunch of MENSES!!!! Why is it that to be a man you have to be violent? Moreover I have seen some damn vicious and violent drag queens in my day, does that make these men is dresses even MORE manly than the A-Team? I mean they not only can impale an assailant with a stiletto but they can also endure having their man bits all squished and flattened out. NOW THAT IS TOUGH. So what is it really that makes you a man? I would love to hear thoughts.

Introducing... THE UKRAINIANS!!!!

Dude Katy Perry is awesome, but SO not as awesome as these guys!





Totally bit from Gizmodo, who scooped from Matija

The Power of Fear Driven Media

OK so today I received a text message from every girlfriend I have telling me not to go to WalMart due to a gang initiation rite where 3 women would be killed. My phone was going off every 3 or 4 minutes all morning due to the fact that I have a lot of girlfriends. It wasn't even just the girls in the city that I am living in either but EVERY girl I know. Well a few quick keystrokes on the good ole' Google showed me that this was indeed the hoax that I suspected it to be. I felt compelled to let my girls know that this hoax has indeed been around since 2005 and that they could shop at the nations largest discounter without fear.

I was surprised at the response. A lot of my girls were frustrated me for invalidating their fears telling me it was better to be safe than sorry. While I agree with that statement at what point do we not leave our houses because of a fear driven media? Moreover if it is a proven hoax that has been going around for YEARS giving no specific location time or date then why are we pandering to its terror?

Worst of all my phone and e-mail both get blown up by something that has no basis in fact but instead is perpetuated via "The Sky Is Falling" reactions when it only takes a minute to check the validity of a claim these days. Instead people would rather mass forward every plausible rumor. Ok maybe I am exaggerating and panic might not be the best explanation but even enough concern to send a mass text regarding a possible tragic event WITHOUT checking its validity is just as irresponsible and foolish. Take a minute to find out if what you are sending has a history of being a hoax and help prevent the further spread of disinformation.

STOP THE SPREAD OF DISINFORMATION

Daft Dwarves

OK so I love me some Daftpunk. I mean I FUCKING LOVE DAFTPUNK!! Nothing makes me happier than DaftPunk, unless it is Daftpunk and vodka. :D ANYWAY I was cliking around the other day and found this video. Total props to Johnny Slogan and Flash Martini. I am UBER impressed. Check it out for yourself!

For Emily and Peter with love.

So I have two school friends who introduced me to pantless living. Granted I never participated in any of the pantless activities I was still regaled with stories about the wonders of the pantless. The stories came more out of being appalled on the part of the one NOT participating though there was plenty of encouragement on the part of the participator. ANYWAY, apparently pantless living is becoming a world wide phenomenon. I found this on another blog online but due to the NSFW nature of the site I cannot share it with my friends. I figured I would repost it for my friends not working in the porn industry.

Gay is the new black

Ok ok you are saying SHUT UP ABOUT THE GAY RIGHTS ISSUE.

I wish I could. I wish this were just no longer an issue. I wish I could walk down the street and not see signs of the injustices and intolerances of society. Sadly we are not there yet and until we are I am not gonna stop talking about it. Recently I has a discussion with a friend of mine who just happens to be Mormon on whether or not people had the right to vote their own personal morality into law. She of course believes they do and I of course believe the opposite. Her argument is that morality is the basis on how people vote and mine is that the law need be free from the passions of morality (to loosely interpret Aristotle).

I do agree on the point that morality, in the sense that if an action is harmful to the individual, should be included in law. This is in the case of murder, rape or any other action that does not include the consent of all parties involved. Marriage however MUST include the consent of the two individuals petitioning to be joined in such a union. So please to al you conservatives out there PLEASE stop comparing your right to vote your morals to murder, rape, child molestation and all the other bullshit you keep trying to make gay marriage akin to. Believe me I understand the conundrum of gay rights vs. religion. However lets look at it from this angle. If God hates gay people as the Westboro Baptist church would like you to believe then WHY DOES HE KEEP MAKING THEM? I have a hard time believing that God, the all knowing is up there making gay people but being totally disgusted that he is doing so. If it is true that we are all children of God and he/she truly wants us to be happy then why would he deny the gay folk any of the same rights that the hetero's have? I am sorry but the God I know and love isn't at all surprised that there are gay folks running around nor is he gonna banish them to hell for being as he created them.

With that being said lets consider the Jim Crow laws for a minute. Lets for the sake of example substitute the word black for the word gay/lesbian and the word white for straight. It is oddly familiar and frighteningly telling as to where this country is heading if the religious and or homophobic folk get to keep pushing their morals on the general public.

1. A gay/lesbian could not offer his hand (to shake hands) with a straight person because it implied being socially equal. Obviously, a gay/lesbian could not offer his hand or any other part of his body to a straight person, because he risked being accused of rape.

(This in effect happens everyday. I have been shaken hands with straight men but was only permitted to do so after he extended the offer. He then proceeded to sit as far away as humanly possible from me in the same room and never made eye contact... ever.)

2. Gays/Lesbians and straight people were not supposed to eat together. If they did eat together, straights were to be served first, and some sort of partition was to be placed between them.

(The benefit of being gay/lesbian is that is isn't always easy to tell. This one for now is moot however i have no doubt in my mind that if there were a way to tell we would NOT be welcome at the same table.)

3. Under no circumstance was a gay/lesbian to offer to light the cigarette of a straight person -- that gesture implied intimacy.

(Ok regardless of the smoking preferences of people. Gay and Lesbian people have to be very cautions as to what, in the name of courtesy, we do for the Straights. Mostly because all too often our gestures of etiquette are misconstrued as showing interest."

4. Gays/Lesbians were not allowed to show public affection toward one another in public, especially kissing, because it offended straights.

(This one hits a little TOO close to home for me growing up in a rural type area. This is CERTAINLY the attitude that I have grown up with and because of that am extremely cautions of my actions in public.)

5. Jim Crow etiquette prescribed that gays/lesbians were introduced to straights, never straights to gays/lesbianss. For example: "Mr. Peters (the straight person), this is Charlie (the gay/lesbian person), that I spoke to you about."

(This I have found to be common place even though it may be a subconscious thing. Additionally I have noticed that may straight people refuse to acknowledge that I have spoken unless they have spoken directly to me.)

6. Straights do not use courtesy titles of respect when referring to gays/lesbians, for example, Mr., Mrs., Miss., Sir, or Ma'am. Instead, gays/lesbians were called by their first names. Gays/Lesbians have to use courtesy titles when referring to straights, and were not allowed to call them by their first names.

(Ok so I will admit that in this case it is the fault of the gays. I cannot speak on behalf of the lesbians but I know that we gays have a tendency to throw titles around loosely. Girl is the general standard for all humans regardless of gender.)

7. If a gay/lesbian person rides in a car driven by a straight person, the gay/lesbian person sits in the back seat, or the back of a truck.

(All i can say is give it time. If things keep going as they are now it is only a matter of time.)

8. Straight motorists had the right-of-way at all intersections.

(OMG I fear for the guy in his Prius (that his wife made him buy) that comes across a pissed off Lesbian in her F-350. Note
to the dudes. Remember the law of lug nuts. )

This is not only scary but super realistic IF things keep going along the path that they have been set. My only hope at this point is that there are enough gay and gay friendly people in this world to stop this madness before we get to this point.